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The Decision Mistake Every Leader Makes Under Pressure

January 07, 20263 min read

The Decision Mistake Every Leader Makes Under Pressure

leader standing infront of his teammates

There’s a moment every leader recognizes.
The room gets quiet. Eyes turn toward you. And the decision is required now—not later, not after another meeting, not after more data.

In those moments, most leaders don’t make a “bad” decision.
They make an unclear one.

And unclear decisions don’t just affect outcomes. They affect trust. Because your team doesn’t only track what you chose—they track the state you chose from.

Why pressure creates unclear leadership

Pressure doesn’t remove your skill.
Pressure exposes your internal alignment.

When stakes are high, your nervous system speeds up. Your mind goes into protection mode. And without noticing it, you start leading from:

  • fear of being wrong

  • fear of disappointing people

  • fear of being judged

  • urgency masquerading as decisiveness

That’s when clarity becomes inaccessible—not because you don’t have it, but because you can’t reach it through internal noise.

The leadership truth your team feels instantly

Your team doesn’t need you to be perfect.
They need you to be clear.

Clarity is the real executive authority. Because it creates stability in unstable environments.

The “One Non-Negotiable” method

In every high-stakes decision, there is one principle that cannot be compromised.

It might be:

  • protecting trust

  • protecting long-term strategy over short-term comfort

  • protecting customers

  • protecting culture

  • protecting integrity

Your job is to name the non-negotiable before the decision.

When you identify the non-negotiable, you stop spiraling through options—and start leading from an anchored center.

Question to ask:
“What is the one truth I will not betray in this decision?”

That question collapses complexity. It brings you back to leadership.

The 5% Slowdown (executive clarity in real time)

Here’s the counterintuitive truth: pressure speeds up fear, not wisdom.

Your wisdom requires a small deceleration to surface.

Not a dramatic pause. Not a long meditation.
A 5% internal slowdown.

That might look like:

  • dropping your shoulders

  • unclenching your jaw

  • softening your breath

  • slowing your words slightly

  • allowing 2 seconds of silence before you speak

This is not “hesitation.”
This is authority.

Because your team trusts a leader who can hold pressure without becoming reactive.

A practical decision sequence (use this in real meetings)

When stakes are high, run this sequence:

  1. Name the non-negotiable
    “What must remain true no matter what?”

  2. State the desired outcome
    “What result are we leading toward?”

  3. Remove emotional noise
    “What fear is trying to drive this decision?”

  4. 5% Slowdown
    “Return to internal steadiness.”

  5. Decide and communicate clearly
    Clear decision. Clear reason. Clear next step.

You are not the kind of leader who cracks under pressure.
You are the leader who gets clearer as the heat rises.

Because clarity is not a personality trait.
It’s a choice you make before the choice you make.

Journal prompts for leaders

  • Where do I tend to lose clarity—boardroom pressure, people pressure, timeline pressure?

  • What is my non-negotiable as a leader in this season?

  • What fear do I default to when I feel watched?

The next time the pressure rises, remember:

Clarity is the decision you make before the decision you make.

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Dr. Sarai Koo is the Chief Visionary Officer of Project SPICES, a coaching, consultancy, and speaking company, former CEO and Founder of MAPS 4 College, SVP of DEI and Culture, actress, and a former Central Intelligence Agency officer. Sarai has a Ph.D. in Education with degrees and specializations in leadership, human development, culture, executive coaching, and human services. Sarai coaches, mentors, consults, and advises global leaders, such as Ambassadors, government leaders, presidents, CEOs, educators, and individuals worldwide.    She is a published author, speaker, and lecturer to various groups and has successfully developed innovative leadership and human capital programs for over 18 years. She is the creator of SPICES Transformational Model. She has assisted in exploring their strengths, releasing hindering deep-rooted issues, and designing a life plan that fulfills their full potential. In 2019, Dr. Koo, sharing her SPICES work, was specifically chosen as the lead organizational change expert to provide tangible vertical and horizontal strategies to transform organizational culture for more 40 Federal Executive Agencies. She is named the top 100 Chief Diversity Officers by the Diversity National Council and 2023 DEI Top Influencers.

Dr. Sarai Koo

Dr. Sarai Koo is the Chief Visionary Officer of Project SPICES, a coaching, consultancy, and speaking company, former CEO and Founder of MAPS 4 College, SVP of DEI and Culture, actress, and a former Central Intelligence Agency officer. Sarai has a Ph.D. in Education with degrees and specializations in leadership, human development, culture, executive coaching, and human services. Sarai coaches, mentors, consults, and advises global leaders, such as Ambassadors, government leaders, presidents, CEOs, educators, and individuals worldwide. She is a published author, speaker, and lecturer to various groups and has successfully developed innovative leadership and human capital programs for over 18 years. She is the creator of SPICES Transformational Model. She has assisted in exploring their strengths, releasing hindering deep-rooted issues, and designing a life plan that fulfills their full potential. In 2019, Dr. Koo, sharing her SPICES work, was specifically chosen as the lead organizational change expert to provide tangible vertical and horizontal strategies to transform organizational culture for more 40 Federal Executive Agencies. She is named the top 100 Chief Diversity Officers by the Diversity National Council and 2023 DEI Top Influencers.

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